This seemed to work but its not perfect

 /**
 * Disable ajax for follow button
 */
function disable_ajax_bp_follow() {
	if ( bp_is_user() && is_user_logged_in() && bp_displayed_user_id() ) {
    ?>
    <script type="text/javascript">
    jQuery(document).ready(function($) {
        var itemButtons = null;
        if ($('body.bp-nouveau').length) {
            itemButtons = $('ul.member-header-actions');
        } else {
            itemButtons = $('#item-buttons');
        }

        if (itemButtons && itemButtons.length) {
            itemButtons.off('click', '.follow-button a.follow, .follow-button a.unfollow');
            itemButtons.on('click', '.follow-button a.follow, .follow-button a.unfollow', function(event) {
                event.preventDefault();
                location.reload();
            });
        }
    });
    </script>
    <?php
}
}
add_action( 'wp_footer', 'disable_ajax_bp_follow', 100 );